REFRAMING ROUTINES - HELPING OUT KIDS COOPERATE

Getting kids to follow instructions isn’t always easy. Whether it’s getting dressed in the morning or going to bed at night, routines can help things run more smoothly.

Here are some simple tips for making routines work in your home:

1. Stick to the Same Order
   Kids feel more secure when things happen in the same order each day. For example, a morning routine might be: wake up, eat breakfast, brush teeth, get dressed, put shoes on, and pack the school bag. Repeating the same steps each day helps kids know what to expect.
2. Set Clear Limits
   Routines help children know the rules—like when it’s time for bed or when screen time ends. Being consistent helps children feel safe and understand what’s expected.
3. Give Clear Instructions
   Some kids do well with simple reminders, while others may need pictures or a checklist they can tick off. Choose what works best for your child.
4. Support According to Age and Needs
   Little ones might need more help, while older children might just need a reminder. Children with additional needs may need routines that are adapted just for them.
5. Praise Their Efforts
   Notice and celebrate when your child follows the routine. A simple "thank you" or a favourite breakfast can go a long way in encouraging them.

With patience and practice, routines can make daily life easier and help children feel more confident and cooperative!

For more ideas on using routines or helping children cooperate, you might like to check out one of the online parenting programs. If you have children aged 12 and under, Triple P Online can help. For new parents, Triple P Online for Baby has practical advice on navigating your baby’s first year. For teens, you could try Teen Triple P Online. For parents and carers of children with disability, you might be interested in Stepping Stones Triple P Online.

Renee Rees

School Psychologist