School's back! Helping kids navigate friendships, bullying, and social challenges

As families across Australia return to school, excitement may be mixed with anxiety, especially for parents and carers who are concerned about their child’s mental health and wellbeing. Whether it’s worrying about social challenges, bullying, or the tricky dynamics of ‘frenemies’, going back to school can be a stressful time.

Friendship challenges: 6 practical tips

1. Reinforce resilience and self-esteem: Help build your child’s self-confidence by encouraging hobbies or activities that they enjoy or are good at. This will help strengthen their ability to face challenging situations or setbacks. Remind them that they are loved and valued, no matter what.
2. Regular check-ins with your child: Create a safe, non-judgmental space at home for kids to share their thoughts and feelings. Ask open-ended questions like, “What was the best part of your day?” and “Was there anything that upset you or could have gone better?” to encourage open and honest communication with your child.
3. Recognise the signs of bullying: Look for subtle changes in behaviour that may indicate your child is being bullied, such as not wanting to go to school, avoiding friends they used to speak to, or unexplained physical marks/tears to clothing. Empower your child by educating them about bullyingand encouraging them to speak up or seek help.
4. Role model empathy and social skills: Help kids understand the importance of kindness, respect and inclusion by modelling this behaviour in your day-to-day activities.
5. Role-play or consider scenarios: Build your child’s confidence in handling difficult social situations by discussing or acting out what to do in challenging situations. Help them consider what to do if someone is teasing them or they see others being bullied. Teach your child how to set healthy boundaries with friends and help them practice positive communication to express their feelings effectively. 
6. Reach out to the school: Partner with teachers or school counsellors to address any concerns early on. Familiarise yourself with the school's anti-bullying policies and programs to ensure a consistent approach.

For more tips and strategies for raising confident kids, visit Triple P Online. If your child is aged six and up, you can help them build resilience through Fear-Less Triple P Online.

Renee Rees

School Psychologist